Happy Couples Understand that Love is a Verb that Protects The Feeling. Here’s something I see almost daily in my work with couples: two good people, often together for decades, sitting across from me… both convinced they are giving love — and both feeling completely unseen. It’s not because they don’t care. It’s because they’ve forgotten how to love each other in a way that actually lands. This is where The 5 Love Languages, written decades ago by Gary Chapman, still earns its place in the...

Crack in the Road. A bandaid wont do it! Infidelity is one of the most painful breaches a relationship can endure. As a couples counsellor and relationship coach based in Subiaco, Perth, I’ve sat with many individuals and couples navigating the aftermath of an affair—or multiple betrayals over time. These are not just “relationship issues.” They are deep attachment injuries . And for those who value loyalty, monogamy, and family, the devastation can feel overwhelming. Often, I meet a...

There’s something I see time and time again in my work with couples—and if I’m honest, I’ve seen it in myself too. We become quietly, fiercely devoted… not to each other, but to our own version of reality . Our own story.Our own pain.Our own interpretation of events. And before we know it, we’re no longer in a relationship—we’re in two parallel worlds, running side by side, rarely touching. It’s like living in the same home but speaking completely different emotional languages. Most couples...