Happy Couples Understand that Love is a Verb that Protects The Feeling. Here’s something I see almost daily in my work with couples: two good people, often together for decades, sitting across from me… both convinced they are giving love — and both feeling completely unseen. It’s not because they don’t care. It’s because they’ve forgotten how to love each other in a way that actually lands. This is where The 5 Love Languages, written decades ago by Gary Chapman, still earns i